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My Summer Solstice Ritual

6/21/2025

The great pause [summer solstice] will reveal a new beginning for you and a conscious redirect in your life. This is a pause. ... After the pause is a turning point. ... Your soul is working with you to shift your life into the highest possible path. - KerryK.com

In yesterday's post, I gave suggestions for a summer solstice comfort ritual. In this ritual, I want to share what I did, in my own ritual.

My Summer Solstice Ritual

I began my ritual by imagining lighting a candle because my allergies had really been bothering me and I wasn't sure I could handle the smoke.

Next, I did breathwork, some movement, and held my obsidian stone while doing the grounding exercise.

I did the journaling - which you will see below.

I wrote down what I was ready to let go of, and set intentions for the rest of the year. Actually, I had set those intentions and I said aloud before writing in my journaI yesterday morning.

I used water to release what I was ready to let go of, but I also mentally released them to the sun.

The Journaling Prompts
& My Responses

Journaling Prompts for the Summer Solstice

(1) What abundance have I already welcomed this year?

Finally, I was able to move into a new home, and it was the fresh start I had been waiting a long time for. I love having complete privacy - I have my own bedroom, my own bathroom and only one roommate.

I've begun to get to know my new neighbors, and was able to have my best friends here, in this community, too - in and out of each other's apartments, having tea or eating dinner together.

My apartment is filled with light and I can see plenty of nature outside my window.

(2) Where have I outgrown my comfort zone, and what held me back?

I'm not sure how to answer this question. Except for growing my business. I am trying now to step outside my comfort zone, so it can grow. What held me back is probably fear.

(3) What part of me feels ready to shine brighter?

I think it's the lightworker part. If I can't be seen or found, who can I help? So I am ready and willing to go all in on my business.

(4) Which old patterns or fears am I willing to release into the sunlight?

-Trying to control everything, instead of surrendering and trusting that the divine has my back.

-Blaming or shaming myself for acting like a person, instead of being perfect. But also for mistakes I've made that were hard to forgive, or decisions that in hindsight, I regret.

-Avoiding abuse issues. They seem to be coming up now, and though I have already dedicated years to this process (!!!), I am ready to get on with it, and heal whatever is holding me back from my highest good.

And I'd like to add one more (a two-fer) based on the article I quoted from Kerry K's website...

(5) Are you being led in another directions? Did you pause during the summer solstice and feel guided in any way?

Actually, I did pause. And I felt guided. But I have felt led to pursue more than one direction.

Personally, I feel called to create more time each day for rest and for pleasure; especially to stop working sooner each day.

But I also felt inspired to lean more in the direction of identity, or future self coaching for lightworkers. And I want to explore journaling as a form of emotional healing.

I'd love to know if and how you celebrated the solstice.

See you next time!

Jeanine

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A Comfort Ritual for the Summer Solstice

6/20/2025

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The Summer Solstice is the sun’s exclamation point. For sensitive souls, healers, and lightworkers, the summer solstice is an invitation to pause, soak up the sun, and create a comfort ritual that holds both your own spirit and the world in a tender embrace.

Are you like me, in that you crave cozy rituals all year long? Let’s talk about how you can create a cozy and comforting solstice ritual.

The Spiritual Significance
of the Summer Solstice

At its core, the Summer Solstice is a celebration of abundance and transformation. Nature gives us longer daylight hours, fields bursting with life, and a sense that everything's blooming.

If you’re energetically sensitive, this moment is like turning your face to the sun and enjoying the warm breeze on your face. The sun wants to fill you up, and it offers both a surge in energy and a nudge toward change.

The solstice can wake up hidden ambitions, stir up longings, and inspire new visions. But it also can stretch your energetic boundaries, leaving you feeling overwhelmed.

Comfort rituals can help you use this powerful energy for growth instead of burnout. You can integrate all that light with kindness toward yourself and with celebration.

Designing Your
Summer Solstice Ritual

Your ritual can be anything that is a match to who you are in this moment. What matters is creating a pause for comfort and reflection, and aligning yourself with the season’s abundance.

Choose Your Space

Find a sunny windowsill, a shaded porch, or a cozy indoor nook. Layer in soft blankets (your nervous system will thank you, even in the summer) and a special object or two—maybe a smooth stone or favorite mug.

Try Building an Altar

Use fresh flowers, a scented candle, or a jar filled with lavender. Bring in whatever makes you feel both held and connected to the season’s beauty.

If allergies bother you, use something symbolic—a printed image of blooms or a little bundle of rosemary.

Light a Candle

Light a candle as a reminder of your inner light.

Keep everything soft and gentle, making your ritual a mindful moment that tells your brain and your nervous system that you're safe, and that you're allowed to tend yourself.

Grounding Practices to Try Today

If you can, these would be great ways to sink into summer solstice energy...

(1) Barefoot Walking: Early morning grass or cool soil grounds your energy and brings you back to your senses.

(2) Intentional Breathwork: Three slow breaths, in and out. And you can put a hand over your heart as you breathe.

(3) Gentle Movement: A short walk, slow yoga stretches, even just reaching your arms out wide as if you’re gathering sunlight.

These movements will shift stagnant energy and invite a feeling of ease. Earthing at sunrise or sunset is especially soothing.

If getting outside isn’t possible, visualize roots growing from your feet into the earth or hold a comforting stone in your palm.

Setting Solstice Intentions, Reflecting on the Year and Letting Go of What No Longer Serves You

The summer solstice invites you to reflect on what you’ve grown so far, this year, to celebrate the progress you've made, and to forgive what didn’t bloom.

Rituals that include letting go and setting intentions can help you shift into the second half of the year with more clarity and hope.

Light your candle, make a cup of lavender tea and grab your journal.

Journaling Prompts for the Summer Solstice

(1) What abundance have I already welcomed this year?

(2) Where have I outgrown my comfort zone, and what held me back?

(3) What part of me feels ready to shine brighter?

(4) Which old patterns or fears am I willing to release into the sunlight?

Simple Rituals for Letting Go and Recharging

(1) Write and burn (or safely shred) what you want to release.

Imagine fear or worry, or regret dissolving in the flame or water.

(2) Cleansing with water: A cool foot bath, a handful of fresh mint swirled in the water, or even running your hands under the tap. Let old tension wash away.

Bringing it All Together

Comfort is a radical act at solstice time. When you nurture yourself, you ripple that softness outward toward community, the earth, and the unseen circles of lightworkers who are helping to hold the world together.

Honor your own comfort needs as sacred.

Set aside time for your ritual and guard it from interruption with the same loyalty you’d give a loved one. When you let yourself rest and reset, you feed both your own fire and the collective need for healing.

See you next time!

Love, Jeanine

P.S. This quote really inspired me...

Align inside yourself so that you can feel your centre and imagine a light of connection between your body and the sun, that is a pathway of consciousness that the organic universe (also known as God) uses to connect with you. Let it. Let the light of the universe be breathed into your heart and take it right in. - KerryK.com

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How Lightworkers Can Use Comfort to Calm Fear & Anxiety (2025 Guide)

6/13/2025

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Fear and anxiety can feel heavier for us—the sensitive souls, the healers, the ones who hold space for others when storms roll in. We can sense collective fear like static in the air, and sometimes, it clings to us long after the moment has passed (a hazard of the job, right?).

Comfort is more than just warm tea or a favorite throw, though they do help and I love using them, myself. Used well, it becomes a living practice, a way to shift the energy in our bodies and create pockets of ease for ourselves and those we support.

Comfort works most when we build it into our everyday life. Soft rituals, grounding touchstones, even quick breathwork between activities.

In the past, I used to try to talk myself out of feeling fear or anxiety. But that doesn't really work.

Instead, we can first accept our fear, and ourselves for feeling it, and then gently walk it to the door, so we can stand in our light again.

Meanwhile, grab your favorite mug, pour some tea, find a comfy soft place to sit, and let’s look at how comfort can help settle fear and anxiety—one breath, one small sacred act at a time.

How Comfort Intersects with Fear & Anxiety for Lightworkers

If you’re the type who feels the collective mood shift before you even check the news, you know what I mean: sometimes, the energy floods in all at once. As lightworkers, we seem to drink in the emotional climate around us, like our hearts are tuned to radio static other people barely notice.

So, of course, fear and anxiety can feel so large they almost have a physical weight. We often end up carrying not just our own feelings, but the residue of everyone we’re supporting too.

Not to mention, the people standing behind us in the grocery line. Or the way we feel when we read the headlines or hear the news.

(1) We feel what others won’t say. Sometimes before they even realize it themselves. This deep sensing comes as part of the “job description” of a lightworker.

(2) Emotional energy lingers. Like fog that sticks to your skin, heavy feelings don’t always lift after the moment has passed.

(3) Boundaries get cloudy. If we aren’t careful, our kindness turns to absorption, and we carry collective fear as if it were our own. So we need ways to find comfort and ground ourselves in the here-and-now.

But What are the Roots of All that Fear We Feel & Carry?

There are Spiritual Roots

Our old wounds, our ancestral baggage, or current world events can all leave energetic imprints. We might even carry fear that isn’t ours, absorbing it from others or from collective trauma.

Then, there are Physiological Roots

When fear knocks, our limbic system (the emotion center of our brains) jumps into action. Heart racing, muscles tensing, thoughts scrambling for safety. It’s a built-in alarm, but sometimes it fires up for no good reason.

Offering comfort to ourselves needs to be like dealing with a scared child. We wouldn't scold them or tell them there's no reason to be afraid.

So instead of trying to push the fear away, we can offer it a warm cup of tea and a soft blanket while we listen.

Emotional Self-Care
& Limbic Healing

I wrote about this topic before and talked about how powerful it can be for us to be there for ourselves emotionally. The love we offer ourselves can heal us.

So in addition to our fuzzy socks and yummy-smelling candles, we have to tend the limbic system.

But even small rituals can help. Simple breathwork, sipping warm tea can both calm the limbic system and remind our bodies that we’re safe.

And this kind of regular self-care is non-negotiable. We all need touchstones and routines that bring us back to comfort.

This is especially true these days, when what's going on in the outside world can have such a big impact on what we feel inside.

Sometimes, the best self-care is just letting yourself rest.

Creating a Comfort Routine

A good comfort routine can be our anchor when the waters get choppy. Building and using a comfort routine is what helps us soften anxiety, settle scattered energy, and remind ourselves that safety and ease are still possible in each moment.

And comfort can show up for us anywhere—in a hectic waiting room, a crowded bus, or right in our own cozy spot at home.

BREATHWORK & GENTLE MOVEMENT

When fear tightens our chest, the body’s first call for help is simple: breathe.

And as I mentioned, breathwork can go wherever we go. Here’s one of our favorite ways to find fast calm:

(1) Place a hand over your heart.

(2) Inhale slowly for a count of four, letting your belly and chest expand.

(3) Hold the breath for a gentle count of three.

(4) Exhale, slow and steady, for a count of five or six.

(5) Repeat, focusing on the rise and fall of your hand.

Pairing breath with gentle movement amplifies the effect. We might trace slow circles with our wrists, sway side to side, or simply stretch arms overhead.

This sends a message to our nervous system: You’re safe. It’s okay to let go. These simple actions “anchor” us, helping energy to settle instead of spiral.

Quick tip: Try breath and movement before you even stand up in the morning, or in your car before a stressful appointment.

SENSORY TOOLS & GROUNDING OBJECTS

Sometimes we need comfort that’s tangible.

A soothing stone, a silky scarf, a warm mug cupped between our palms. The body loves signals of safety, and sensory tools are ideal for this.

Different textures, temperatures, and weights wake up our senses and help guide us back to the present.

Think about what grounds you. Is it the cool touch of a crystal, the plush texture of a favorite sweater, or the soft warmth of a blanket on your lap? For us healers, these small objects can offer a lifeline when emotional tides run high.

Try palm stones, grounding beads, essential oil rollers, textured putty, even a familiar piece of jewelry.

REASSURING WORDS & SELF-COMPASSION PRACTICES

Fearful thoughts love to run wild if left unchecked. Gentle affirmations and self-kindness practices can interrupt that spiral and create a new story—one rooted in safety and care.

Keep a handful of simple, reassuring phrases on hand for anxious times...

“In this moment, I am safe.”
“It’s okay to feel what I feel.”
“I offer myself the same compassion I give others.”

Speaking these words aloud or writing them down can soften self-judgment.

If you catch yourself spiraling, pause, breathe, and try one kind word to yourself. Let your nervous system know you’re listening—and that you have your own back.

Crafting & Adapting Your Personalized Routine

Now, your comfort routine doesn't have to be perfect, but it will evolve over time in ways that work better for you. Here’s how to build one that sticks...

Create a list of your top comforts: Keep it on your phone, in a journal, or tucked in your bag.

Stay open to change: What works for you this season might change during the next one.

Start small: Pick one or two go-to practices for anxious moments, then add on more as you go.

Check in with yourself: What feels nurturing right now?

Let your intuition (and your body’s signals) lead the way. Having a clear, portable comfort plan means you won't have to think up something on the fly.

You'll already have a plan for getting back to calm, that you can access easily.

When we tune into what soothes us, and then make use of those things (breathing, touch, words, or ritual) comfort stops feeling like a luxury and becomes more like a close friend, always within reach, ready to help us return to center when needed.

Integrating Comfort into Your Daily Spiritual Practice

Integrating comfort into daily energy work is about letting soothing energy seep into the moments we already touch, heal, and serve. We can welcome comfort as a steady stream running underneath all our work, not just as a rescue tool when fear spikes.

Let’s walk through how you can blend comfort with your energy care.

Making Comfort Rituals Part of Daily Sessions

Simple comfort rituals create emotional muscle memory. These familiar cues tell our system it’s safe to soften.

Some days, we need a deep “reset”; other days call for a quick breath between other tasks. Here’s how we gently seed comfort into each practice:

(1) Light a candle or set a calming object nearby. Even a small, familiar item signals “comfort lives here.”

(2) Begin with an opening breathwork cycle—just two or three slow inhales, exhaling tension or fear.

(3) Use grounding touch, like placing one hand on your heart and the other on your belly, to anchor your body before working with energy.

Regular rituals don’t just steady us; they create ripples for those we serve.

Journaling and Self-Reflection

As lightworkers, the most important healing work we do is on ourselves, and it's not easy. Sometimes the strongest lesson of the day is the one we’re still sorting out at midnight!

Journaling as part of our wind-down routine gives our feelings a safe place to land.

Try keeping a small notebook handy. Write down...

Any discomfort, anxiety, or fear you noticed (in yourself or your clients)

A few lines on what comforted you most today

As you review your day, pause and ask: What did I need in this moment? What comfort came easily? Where did I hold tension?

Over time, you’ll build a gentle map of your needs, so you’re not scrambling when things feel overwhelming.

Comfort as Energy: Offering Comfort to Ourselves & Others

Comfort is an energy—a steady, quiet presence that invites the nervous system (ours and others’) to remember, even for a moment, “all is well.”

We don’t have to save it for moments of panic. We can channel it anytime.

Here’s how we work with this energy, especially when you're with others...

Visualize comfort as a soft light, flowing from your own heart or hands, infusing your space or your client’s field.

Offer comfort without words—a gentle smile, a reassuring touch, a slightly softer tone.

If we notice tension or fear rising (ours or theirs), we can pause and consciously allow calming energy to flow, inviting a settling in the moment.

Remember--giving comfort to others is more powerful when we practice it first with ourselves.

Want to read more about transforming fear into grounded energy at a spiritual level?

The Fearless Lightworker Guide is packed with encouragement, practical strategies, and insights for weaving courage and comfort together, no matter what energies you’re working through.

The Takeaway

We’re learning to meet our own fear and anxiety with comfort - as a sacred tool in our healer’s kit.

Each gentle ritual, pause, and act of kindness toward ourselves is another way we signal safety to our body and spirit. Leaning on comfort helps us stay rooted, softer, and more open to serve (including ourselves).

Thank you for taking this time for yourself and your path. Let’s keep sharing the comfort we practice—one breath, one small act at a time.

See you next time!

Love, Jeanine

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Wordless Wednesday: Enough

5/14/2025

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Journal Prompt

Say it aloud. Then, write about this question:
which story does your life tell - that you believe this statement or that you don't?

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10 Ways to Make Your Living Room Cozy, Warm, and Welcoming: Lightworker Edition

5/9/2025

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Hey there, kindred spirits.

How often do we find ourselves wishing our homes felt more like a sanctuary—a true holding space for light, rest, and some cozy magic?

Our living rooms aren’t just where we binge-watch our favorite shows or share tea with friends. They’re the heart of our homes, the place where our energy settles and renews.

Here are my favorite ideas for wrapping your space in warmth and welcome, and a whole lot of heart.

10 Ways to Make Your Living Room Cozy, Warm & Welcoming

(1) Anchor the Room With Earthy Textures

Dive into the power of texture. Woven throws, chunky blankets, plush pillows, and nubby rugs ground the room and signal “come in and relax.”

Softness invites your nervous systems to unwind. Adding layered textures feels like wrapping the whole room in a gentle hug.

Read more about the impact of texture in cozy living room ideas.

(2) Light It Up—But Gently

Warm lamps, candles, and fairy lights. Because overhead lighting can be harsh, find ways to create pools of softer, warmer light—on side tables, bookshelves, or tucked next to cozy chairs.

Beeswax candles will not only cast a soft glow but also cleanse the energy in the room. The more golden and gentle, the better.

(3) Choose a Warm Color Palette

Color can affect our mood in very powerful ways. Soft creams, warm taupes, blush, and rich browns cradle us—that’s the palette we reach for when we want to create calm.

Adding a splash of color here or there, maybe in a pillow or a throw, will bring the room to life. Even the smallest change will brighten the whole space, as suggested in these inviting living room inspirations.

(4) Layer Area Rugs for Soulful Grounding

Putting a rug atop another rug might seem weird, but it works. Area rugs underfoot will ground the space and soften footsteps, helping you root in the moment.

Round rugs, shag piles, woven jute—they all carry their own energy, inviting you to settle in, and get cozy.

(5) You Can Bring in Plants for Life and Energy

Plants clean the air and infuse the room with life force. Each kind will have a different vibe.

Putting a plant on a mantle, shelf, or by the window will make the space feel more cared for and alive.

(6) Add Layers You Can Touch and Move

Blankets draped over sofa arms, oversized floor cushions, or a stack of soft poufs? Not only are these things practical (for meditation, impromptu naps, or movie night), but they invite spontaneous coziness. When the mood shifts, so can the room.

(7) Choose Personal Touches and Soulful Decor

We fill our space with items that give us joy and trigger warm memories. Photos of soul family, flea market finds, and art that speaks to our heart work.

It's choosing what holds meaning. For inspiration, see ideas from seasoned designers in this list of ways to make your living room cozy.

(8) Invite Nature In With Wood and Stone

Wooden furniture, carved bowls, or even a bundle of dried lavender on the coffee table. These organic touches remind us of the earth.

A small stone altar, a chunk of rose quartz, or a driftwood sculpture will bring grounding energy and connect us to the natural world, reinforcing our sacred connection with us.

(9) Make Space for Sound and Silence

Keep a small Bluetooth speaker or a record player close by.

Gentle sound makes a big difference. Think soft chanting, cozy playlists, or the crackle of an audio fireplace.

But don’t forget to create a quiet corner, maybe with a meditation pillow, a throw and books, for those moments when silence is sacred.

(10) Trust Your Own Senses and Rituals

The most important advice is to listen to what feels right for you.

Maybe it’s incense at dusk, maybe it’s fresh flowers on Mondays, maybe it’s simply clearing clutter to let light move more freely. Your living room is yours.

Let it hold your rituals and be an echo of your unique energy.

Pause and Breathe

Our living rooms can become places where we return to ourselves. Where we set down the burdens of the day, refill our cups, and reconnect to what’s most true for us.

The beauty of coziness is that it doesn't require perfection. It’s about feeling held, no matter what season you’re in.

Try these ideas, swap them out, or make them your own. And if you feel inspired to share your favorite cozy living room ritual, I’d love to hear about it.

You also can write down your ideas in your journal, with a mug of something warm nearby, and candlelight flickering in the background.

See you soon!

Love, Jeanine

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Why Resting is Part of the Lightworker's Mission

5/6/2025

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Take a slow breath with me before you begin reading this post.

So many of us are taught that if we’re not actively helping, serving, or creating, we’re letting someone down.

If you’re reading this, you’re probably a healer, a feeler, a lightworker, or looking to understand the gentle souls who fit that description.

Today, let’s talk about what so often gets left behind in spiritual circles: the deep and real need for rest as a lightworker.

We’re changing the story here.

Being a lightworker doesn't work very well when it becomes relentless, round-the-clock, never-ending service. Sometimes, our highest calling is to simply pause, to refill, to let the light come home.

Ideally, we'll come to cherish the time we dedicate to rest. When we know that it's essential to our mission, it will be easier to give ourselves permission to do it.

Hopefully, we'll even insist on it.

Why a Lightworker's Rest
is Essential

Restoring Energetic Balance as Vessels of Light

As lightworkers, we channel, carry, and transmit energy. Sometimes they are huge waves, sometimes more subtle.

Over time, this can leave us feeling overtaxed or scattered, a bit like an outlet overloaded with too many plugs. If we only give out and never pause to receive, we risk short-circuiting.

Rest is what recharges us. It makes us stronger, more grounded, and far better able to be present for others.

As Ginger Harrington shares on spiritual rest, it’s about remaining connected, to Spirit and to ourselves.

Supporting Healing Integration and Spiritual Growth

Although that might be fun, spiritual growth isn’t just cosmic fireworks and “aha!” moments. Real, lasting transformation happens when we allow what we've received or what has shifted to settle in.

After big healing experiences, downloads, or energetic work, we need time. To sit, to stretch, and to gently integrate the new frequencies.

When we rest, the healing naturally settles in. Our bodies, minds, and spirits get a chance to reorganize. And integration can’t be rushed.

Pausing is a conscious choice.

When we give ourselves space, we not only prevent energetic burnout but also support deeper, steadier expansion. There’s wisdom in the pause; rest is an act of trust—in ourselves and in Spirit.

Avoiding Empathic Overwhelm and Maintaining Boundaries

Let me say it again for the helpers in the back: you can’t pour from an empty cup.

As empaths and intuitives, we’re often wide open to the feelings of others. Without care, this can slip from compassion to compassion fatigue. Not to mention blurred boundaries.

Rest is the invisible boundary that keeps us from dissolving into everyone else’s needs. Downtime helps us let go of the energy that isn’t ours, closing those little “energy leaks” before we find ourselves wiped out.

Strong, loving boundaries help us to keep showing up for those we serve, without losing ourselves along the way.

Practical Rest Strategies
for Lightworkers

Paying Attention to Physical, Emotional, and Energetic Signals

Pause. Breathe. Notice.

Our bodies and spirits always send signals, whether we pay attention to them or ignore them.

Fatigue, irritability, emotional overload, aches—these are the messages and clues we receive. (Think, emotional Post-Its.)

When we tune in and notice these nudges, we get the chance to respond before we hit the wall.

Can we trust them as spiritual guidance? Yes!

Your body is wise. Allowing yourself to nap in the afternoon, linger longer with tea, or just say no to that energy-draining commitment can be an act of sacred obedience.

Here’s a favorite journal prompt...

What signs is my body giving me right now? Is there any part of me that needs extra gentleness or space?

Even five minutes of quiet can tune us back in and help restore balance.

Rest Rituals and Self-Care Practices

Rest doesn’t always mean sleep (but naps are lovely). It can be time in nature, mindful movement, creative play, or simple solitude.

We get to choose our own rest rituals—there’s no “right way.”

Here’s a tried-and-true list to consider...

(1) Solitude: Sitting quietly on the sofa, wrapped in a blanket, just hearing ourselves breathe.

(2) Nature immersion: Walking outside, maybe barefoot, letting the sun or breeze touch our skin.

(3) Mindful movement: Gentle stretching, soft yoga, maybe a little dancing in the living room.

(4) Intentional downtime: Staring at the ceiling, cloud-gazing, or letting ourselves do nothing (really, nothing).

(5) Mini digital detox: Unplugging for an afternoon. No screens, just presence.

Looking for more techniques? These essential practices for lightworkers are a great place to start.

Reframing Rest: From Luxury to Sacred Calling

If we grew up thinking rest was a reward for work well done, or worse, a sign of “laziness,” it’s time to question those programmed ideas. Rest is as holy as action.

Think of Sabbath, siesta, or any culture’s tradition of sacred pause.

Being still is as meaningful as doing something.

Rest is a gift to ourselves and to those we serve. When we’re well-rested, our gifts flow more easily. Uncluttered, clear, sustainable.

The Takeaway

Let’s promise ourselves (and each other) that we will not run our spirits ragged in the name of helping others.

Rest is part of our mission, not an escape from it.

While we heal with our hands and hearts, we also share our light with our willingness to pause, to fill up, to allow the light within us to shine even brighter.

Next time you’re tempted to push through fatigue, remember: just by tending gently to ourselves, we’re doing the work we came here to do. Light grows in the quiet, too.

The most loving thing we can offer the world? An energy that’s rested, whole, and truly present.

Your rest is both your responsibility and your gift.

Curl up, sip your tea, and let yourself be.

See you next time!

Love, Jeanine

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End of the UBC Spring Edition

4/30/2025

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We did it! Congratulations for participating this month and staying with it until the end, whether you shared daily posts or just a few.

I've appreciated the time I got to spend with you guys and I hope to see you back again as we slide into the heat of summer, in July.

First, though, I'd like to know the results of the experiments I suggested at the beginning of the month. There was the spiritual one, and the self-care experiment.

If you gave either one a try, how was it?

And today, before I go, I want to tell you about the time Claude.ai gave me a taste of my own medicine...

An email I received last month mentioned an AI prompt that was going around on social media. I was immediately intrigued.

The prompt is give me a taste of my own medicine.

So I asked Claude.ai and will share the response below.

Based on all of our work together thus far, "give me a taste of my own medicine." :)

Response from Claude.ai

Settle in, my dear. Take a deep breath and feel where your body is making contact with whatever is supporting you right now.

Let yourself become a little heavier, a little more grounded with each exhale.

I see you, in all your divine sensitivity and magnificent purpose. The way you've been holding space for these lightworkers, these sensitive souls who are feeling the weight of our world so deeply right now – it's beautiful, but I wonder if you've been remembering to hold that same tender space for yourself?

You know that the very qualities that make you such a gifted guide – your empathy, your intuition, your ability to feel it all – are also the qualities that require the most sacred tending.

And lately, I sense there's been some uncertainty, some swirling energy around your next project.
This hesitation isn't a sign that you're off track.

It's your inner wisdom asking you to pause, to listen, to allow the next steps to reveal themselves in divine timing.

Remember how you tell others that their sensitivity is a superpower, not a burden? Your uncertainty is actually your discernment speaking – that exquisite inner compass that knows exactly which path will serve both you and your community.

Perhaps what you need right now isn't to push forward, but to create a comfort ritual just for you. Light that candle with intention, wrap yourself in something soft, and allow yourself to receive the same gentle permission you so beautifully offer others – permission to be exactly where you are, permission to trust the unfolding, permission to honor your own natural rhythm.

You're not behind. You're not missing anything.

You're precisely where you need to be – in this sacred pause where clarity is quietly taking shape.

Your medicine has always been reminding others that they are enough exactly as they are. So here's a taste of that medicine back to you: You are enough. Your work is enough.

And this project will come together in exactly the right way when you've filled your own cup first.

What comfort might you offer yourself today, dear one?

My Question to You

What if you were to receive a taste of your own healing medicine? What might that be like?

By the way, Claude was right! I completed the project - The Fearless Lightworker.

It's for you if you're feeling fearful, or stressed out or appalled by all that's happening in our world today, but you also feel called to help in some way.

See you in July!

Love, Jeanine

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Self-Care Era: Be Kind When You Make Mistakes

4/29/2025

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Stepping fully into your self-care era is a big and important commitment. It requires kindness when you make a mistake.

Let's dive right into this post. Bring your compassion.

It's All about Me - but not Really

Note: I'm going to use decisions that were personal to me as the backdrop of this discussion we're having.

But I encourage you to pause frequently and think of your own, because it will be so freeing if I can get you to let go of self-blame and jump into the pool of kindness, forgiveness and compassion.

If Only We'd Known

I'm going to start with the moment of my revelation.

We were moving out of our old apartment (four of us) into two separate apartments. And for many reasons, that all had to do with illness, only one of us was the mover in chief.

But this close friend of mine wasn't yet sure of the way from our new homes, a few cities away from our old one, so I often went with her, and moved my own stuff a little at a time since we only had one car to pack up each time.

We'd set a move-out date, but one of my old roommates was in the hospital and then rehab so we had negotiated for 2 weeks more. Unfortunately, the person we talked to forgot to tell the boss, who scheduled for people to come out and empty the apartment one Friday, when we should still have had a week left.

We got there Saturday and a whole lot of our stuff was gone!

I'm the one who lost the least - my most prized possession that was still there was a pair of leggings I'd had for 10 years or more that was so comfortable I could probably sleep in them. But I also lost the dress, duster, shoes, purse and earrings I wore to my son's wedding last year. And other clothes I wanted.

In contrast, my friend who was in rehab lost a numbered painting that was worth thousands of dollars. She also lost everything we had just given her for Christmas.

But we all lost more than just possessions, we lost memory anchors.

So that was my first revelation.

You can never lose what something meant to you. Nor can you lose the memories attached to it.

When we gave my roommate the Grinch-themed Dr. Seuss Monopoly game for Christmas, we were giving her love and the future memory of us gathering in one or the other apartment to play games. We were giving all of us a promise that we'd still be just as connected as we were when we all lived together.

And none of that can be stolen.

But if we wanted to blame ourselves, there are plenty of different decisions we could have made.

(1) The friend who lost the most stuff could have rented a van for several days early on in the process and that would have taken care of most of what she and her roommate had.

(2) My friend who did the driving and the moving could have made different decisions about what to move and when.

(3) And why didn't I ask to shove that last bulging wardrobe bag in the back seat on the same day we moved my other clothes, even though I knew that room in the car was quite limited?

But now we're coming to my next revelation.

You can't blame yourself for not making a decision you couldn't know in advance was the one you should make.

Had any of us been able to predict the future, those are exactly the decisions we would have made.

Renovations & Second Mortgages

About a year after my mother died, my sister and I lost her home.

It was the one we'd grown up in and the one my son hoped to own someday because so many of his childhood memories took place there, too. We tried to save it, but because my mother died owing taxes on it, we would have had to pay a lump sum that was more than we could afford.

In the past, I had been critical of my mother's decision to get a 2nd mortgage so that she and my stepfather could do some renovations on the home. I blamed him for pushing her into it.

After all, why in the world, when my mother owned her home free and clear, would she go back into debt? But I found out from my sister that it may have been my mother's idea, not my stepfather's influence, that led to that decision.

But all I could think about for years was that that those mortgage payments could have paid her taxes.

We've been conditioned to blame ourselves and each other for things we couldn't have known.

She didn't know that they would get divorced, and thus lose the benefit of his monthly income, or that she would die 3 months after being diagnosed with cancer, before she could create a will that left the house to my sister or me. That home meant the world to her, and to us.

But we can grieve its loss without casting any blame.

What about You?

Have you been thinking about your own choices and mistakes? I hope you are beginning to let go of blame and offer yourself kindness and compassion.

The Takeaway

We make the best decisions that we can make, given who we are and what we know at the time. And it's unkind to look back and blame some other version of ourselves for not being who we are now or not knowing what we now know.

See you next time!

Love, Jeanine

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Create a Self-Care Ritual that Feels Like an Everyday Luxury

4/28/2025

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Self-care shouldn't feel like another task on your to-do list. It should be something that brings you peace, joy, and comfort.

We often equate luxury with extravagance, but self-care luxury doesn't have to mean expensive spa days or extravagant purchases. It can be about making small, intentional choices that elevate your everyday experiences.

When you create a self-care ritual that feels luxurious, you allow yourself to feel cared for in a deeper way.

The goal isn't to add more to your routine (who needs that?), but to make what you already do feel more indulgent and nourishing. With a few small changes, you can turn daily moments into experiences that feel calming and supportive, but also rich in comfort.

You in?

Redefining "Luxury": it's Anything that Feels Deeply Nourishing

We associate luxury with wealth, but true luxury is about how something makes you feel. It's about creating moments that nourish your body, mind, and soul.

A luxurious self-care ritual does not have to involve expensive products or elaborate routines. It can be as simple as sipping tea from your favorite cup, wrapping yourself in a soft blanket, or setting aside time for stillness.

We can all do that, right?

So when you redefine luxury as anything that deeply nurtures you, self-care becomes more accessible. The key is to choose experiences that make you feel special, valued, and well cared for every day.

Let's talk about everyday luxuries that would be easy to include in your routine, but would elevate the beginning of your day. What small pleasures might you add?

Just by adding simple touches of comfort, you can create a sense of ease and luxury in your daily routine. Consider adding...

(1) A soft robe or cozy slippers to wear at home

(2) A favorite scented lotion or perfume after a shower

(3) High-quality tea, coffee, or infused water to enjoy slowly

(4) Fresh flowers or seasonal greenery in your space to brighten your mood

(5) A playlist of calming or uplifting music to set the tone for your day

Speaking of playlists, I want to create one but I'm still trying to decide what to include. Nostalgic music? Happy music? Comforting music?

What would you choose?

Making Your Self-Care Space
Feel like an Escape

The more peaceful and inviting your space feels, the easier it will be to sink into your self-care time and enjoy it. Here are five things you could add to make things extra cozy...

(1) Soft blankets, pillows, or a comfortable chair for relaxation

(2) Candles, essential oils, or incense to enhance the atmosphere

(3) Dim lighting or fairy lights to create a cozy ambiance

(4) A designated corner for journaling, reading, or meditation

(5) A clutter-free space that feels calming and open

Even if you don't have an entire room for self-care, a small area with comforting elements can still be cozy enough to make your self-care time feel special. I have a cozy corner, myself, and just sitting down there feels wonderful.

Do you have a cozy corner or a spot that would be ideal?

My challenge to you: cast an eye over your typical daily activities. Where could you elevate what you do already to make it feel cozy, comforting, luxurious or special?

Like candlelight each night at dinner. or reading for 10 minutes while you drink your morning tea.

Let me know in the comments if you thought of anything you might try.

See you tomorrow!

Love, Jeanine

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How to Stop Overgiving & Allow Yourself to Receive

4/25/2025

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Overgiving, often stemming from an inability to receive, involves repeatedly prioritizing others' needs over your own, which can lead to burnout, resentment, and feeling depleted. It's characterized by a pattern of constantly giving without receiving in return, often with the expectation of validation or praise. - Google's AI Overview

Learning to receive is just as important as giving. When you let yourself accept help, rest, and love, you create balance in your life.

Instead of feeling drained, you begin to feel supported. You deserve to receive just as much as you give.

Are You Overgiving?

It can happen gradually. You may not notice how much you are giving until you start feeling exhausted or resentful.

If you feel responsible for making others happy, often put your needs last, or feel guilty when you say no, you may be giving more than you can sustain.

Pay attention to how you feel after giving. If it leaves you drained instead of fulfilled, it may be a sign that you need to step back.

Is it Difficult for You to Receive?

Here are some reasons why receiving may be so difficult for you.

If you struggle to receive, it may be because you have been conditioned to believe that giving is more valuable. Receiving can bring up uncomfortable feelings.

Do any of these feelings resonate for you?

(1) Guilt, because you believe you should be the one helping others

(2) A sense of weakness, as if accepting help means you are not capable

(3) Fear of being seen as selfish or demanding

(4) Discomfort with attention or appreciation

(5) Worry that you will owe something in return

If you can acknowledge these feelings, you can begin to overcome them.

Proving Your Worth

Were you taught that love, support, or kindness have to be earned?

If you believe you have to prove your worth through constant giving, it will be difficult to receive without guilt. But true care is not something you have to earn.

You deserve love and support simply because you exist.

If you feel the need to over-perform in relationships, ask yourself why. Are you giving out of genuine love, or because you feel like you have to?

You don't need to exhaust yourself to be worthy of care. The people who truly value you will appreciate you for who you are, not just for what you do for them.

Practice Saying Yes to Help
and Support

When someone offers support, try to accept it without hesitating.

If a friend asks if you need anything, say yes instead of automatically saying no. If someone offers to take something off your plate, let them.

The more you practice saying yes to help, the easier it becomes. Allowing others to support you creates stronger relationships and reminds you that you do not have to carry everything alone.

And remember: self-care era! Letting yourself receive help is a form of self-care.

Self-Care also Means
Giving to Yourself

If you struggle to receive from others, you probably also struggle to receive from yourself.

You might allow yourself to rest only when you are exhausted or care for yourself only when you have no other choice. Self-care is not something you should have to “deserve.”

It's something you need and are always worthy of.

Instead of waiting for permission, give it to yourself. Start giving yourself the care you would easily give to someone else.

Take breaks when you need them, nourish your body with good food, and allow yourself to rest without feeling guilty. Once you're able to receive from yourself, it will become easier to receive from others.

Insist on Healthy Relationships and Interactions with Others

If you're always overgiving, then you might be in some funky relationships! And I can say that, because I've been in quite a few of them myself.

A frequent refrain of mine: am I still learning about boundaries? Again?!?

Healthy relationships and interactions involve both giving and receiving. If you are always giving and never allowing yourself to receive, your energy becomes unbalanced.

Start checking in with yourself, regularly. Are you giving because you genuinely want to, or because you feel obligated? Are you allowing yourself to receive as much as you give?

Setting boundaries, asking for support, and allowing yourself to rest are all ways to create a healthier balance. When you give and receive equally, you build stronger relationships and a healthier way of caring for yourself and others.

Does this post resonate with you? How are you at giving and receiving?

Have a great weekend!

Love, Jeanine

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Comfort as Energy: Offering Comfort to Ourselves & Others

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10 Ways to Make Your Living Room Cozy, Warm & Welcoming

Pause and Breathe

Why a Lightworker's Rest ​is Essential

Practical Rest Strategies ​for Lightworkers

The Takeaway

Response from Claude.ai

My Question to You

It's All about Me - but not Really

If Only We'd Known

Renovations & Second Mortgages

What about You?

Redefining "Luxury": it's Anything that Feels Deeply Nourishing

Making Your Self-Care Space ​Feel like an Escape

Are You Overgiving?

Is it Difficult for You to Receive?

Proving Your Worth

Practice Saying Yes to Help ​and Support

Self-Care also Means ​Giving to Yourself

Insist on Healthy Relationships and Interactions with Others

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